You compose your own life. It’s as if you are a piece of music and anybody near you can tell if it’s playing in harmony. When it’s out of tune, it can be so painful that other people will want to cover their ears! You always need to be in harmony with yourself, with others, and with the world at large.
When you are in harmony with yourself, four things are aligned:
- What you say
- What you think
- What you do, and
- What you feel
In these moments, things flow without a sense of agitation, stress or tension. For some reason, your pieces all fit together, and you feel less anxiety, stress, upset, and guilt.
Being in harmony with others is all about being honest, walking your talk, being open, trusting and kind. The opposite is breaking promises, confrontation, misunderstanding, and a lack of authenticity.
Being in harmony with the world at large takes many forms such as living sustainably and with nature (not against it).
It is hard to be at peace with things and people around you when you are not at peace.
“He who lives in harmony with himself lives in harmony with the universe.”- Marcus Aurelius
Sadly, too many people never experience any sustained harmony in their lives.
“If life isn’t about human beings and living in harmony, then I don’t know what it’s about.” – Orlando Bloom
Be in alignment
My advice is straightforward; what you say, think, feel and do should be in alignment.
- When you want to lose weight, then go on a diet and exercise.
- If you promise to help someone, then remember to do it.
- If you feel sad and depressed, stop acting as if you are 100% OK.
- If you think someone is being unkind and mean to you, stop pretending that all is well between the two of you.
Don’t say one thing, feel another, think something else, and do the opposite!
The gain is worth the pain!
This is one of the hardest challenges of all. It will be stressful and hard for you in the short term. You will probably upset people when you share what you think or feel or when you stop doing that you no longer wish to do.
The longer-term benefit is that you start being more authentic and honest. Some people may pull away from you. If you do this, you can expect to have more honest and open relationships and friendships.